So long as men aren’t stepping up, women’s empathy needs limits
Women, above all else, are meant to give. Give pleasure, care, food, children, endless nurturing, and domestic labour. We are to be selfless empaths, who understand and tolerate the pain and suffering...
View ArticleWhy are men hiding their porn use, anyway?
Image: Pixabay Anything that happens between consenting adults is the standard by which we are told we must determine acceptable versus unacceptable sexual practices. But if that is the case, what to...
View ArticleFacials, feminism, and performance: On f**king men in a patriarchy
As feminists, sleeping with men is always going to be a little fraught. Not getting to the actual act, per se — jumping into bed with people we feel like jumping into bed with can be pretty...
View ArticleCan men and women be 'just' friends? An interview with my lady-friend, Chris
The third interview I did for this series was with my friend Chris; a 27 year old bisexual woman who is in what she calls a ‘monogamish’ (so, monogamous, but flexible) relationship with a man. I met...
View ArticleCan men and women be ‘just’ friends? My interview with Daniel
A couple of weeks ago I began a little project based on the frequently asked question: “Can men and women be ‘just’ friends?” For the purposes of my (and hopefully your) entertainment and interest,...
View ArticleCan men and women be 'just' friends? My interview with Amy
Earlier this month ago I began a little project based on the frequently asked question: “Can men and women be ‘just’ friends?” For the purposes of my (and hopefully your) entertainment and interest,...
View ArticleCan men and women be ‘just’ friends? My interview with Sam
Earlier this month ago I began a little project based on the frequently asked question: “Can men and women be ‘just’ friends?” For the purposes of my (and hopefully your) entertainment and interest,...
View ArticleOn feminism, writing, and doing womanhood wrong
The problem with romance is that it seems to give me writer’s block. I can’t explain why it happens, but it always does. It isn’t because I feel overly preoccupied with the source of the romantic...
View ArticleThe gays are everywhere
If I were to announce that this is a post about the woes of queer youth in the countryside, I can be fairly sure most people would expect me to lament the “backwards” attitudes and small mindedness to...
View ArticleLet’s make ‘androsexism’ a thing we talk about
We already have lesbophobia, I think we need to add androsexism to our dictionary of words to describe the, shall we say “annoyances,” of being a woman who is, or sometimes finds herself in the...
View ArticleSurprise! Teen girls are having anal sex because they're being pressured into it
My first boyfriend was pissed that I wouldn’t have anal sex with him. Not just because he, you know, wanted to try out all the super sexy things he’d learned watching porn, but because I’d done it...
View ArticlePODCAST: Has the gay rights movement ‘lost its teeth?’ Julie Bindel on her...
Has the gay rights movement become more conservative than radical? Julie Bindel, the author of a new book that tracks the changes in the gay community in the last forty years and looks at what it...
View ArticleCan ‘maintenance sex’ ever be gender neutral?
Ah, “maintenance sex.” That good old fashioned idea that we are obligated to satisfy our partner’s sexual desires lest they leave us or cheat on us. Tracy Moore wrote about it for Jezebel on Monday,...
View ArticleOf course men want children more than women do
Women. They all just can’t wait for a man to “put a ring on it” and commit to starting a family. But men… Men have such a hard time letting go of their beloved bachelor days and putting on that ol’...
View ArticleWhy I'm not celebrating Ireland's legalization of gay marriage as a win for...
Progressives around the world celebrated this weekend as Ireland voted 62 per cent in favour of legalizing same-sex marriage. This win is significant and important for a country that only...
View ArticleTinder fearmongering won’t erase the underlying problem of porn culture
An article in the September issue of Vanity Fair by Nancy Jo Sales painted a rather depressing picture of heterosexual dating in the age of Tinder. These bleak assessments of modern courting that...
View ArticleSex & Zika: On contraception and the coital imperative
It has been hard to miss the growing media coverage of the Zika virus. With a possible link between the infection of pregnant women and birth deformities, much of the attention has turned to women’s...
View Article11 Reasons to NOT get married
With Valentine’s Day looming, legions of men are plotting marriage proposals to their girlfriends. But we must stay strong, women, and not be lured in by this “season of romance,” because take it from...
View ArticleMocking masculinity isn’t mean, it’s purposeful (and fun!)
Image/Men Taking Up Too Much Space on the Train. Cathy Young, darling of men’s rights activists and libertarian basement-dwellers across America, has boldly stood up, yet again, for the ever-pilloried...
View ArticleThe Modern Mumma’s ‘quickie’ is nothing to feel good about
After being sexually harassed endlessly for weeks, Mel Watts, who runs the blog, The Modern Mumma, succumbed to her husband’s pressure and engaged in what she calls “a quickie.” That is to say, she...
View ArticleSix reasons I am not your mother so fix your own damn self
“Are you going to save my brother?” Early on when I was dating my ex, his brother asked me this question. At the time, I think I probably thought it was sweet. But the three years that followed,...
View ArticleThe not-so-unexpected challenge of new mothers: Dealing with entitled men
New mother? Feeling stressed or challenged due to the fact that you grew then expelled a human being out of your body and now have to take care of it day and night for many more years to come? Well,...
View ArticleToday’s shameless lesbians won’t be queered
We seem to have reached something like the opposite of a critical mass. A critical lack, rather — wherein people are looking around and asking, “What happened to the lesbian?” As we are witnessing...
View Article#FTF: 7 ways heterosexuality is still compulsory
Julianne Moore and Mark Ruffalo in “The Kids Are Alright.” Justin Trudeau lived up to his liberal dreamboat reputation by joining the Toronto Pride March last month. With a rainbow maple leaf on his...
View ArticlePODCAST: ‘Good, giving, and game’— how sex advice and sex therapy perpetuate...
Too often, when women are not interested in sex at the same levels their male partners are, they are told either that there is something wrong with them or that they are obligated to find a way to...
View ArticleThe woke left is a lie — all of it: the politics, the mantras, the pronoun pins
“It was a charade to bed me, secure his shemale fantasy and then return to his cis girlfriend. If he was looking to suck a girl’s dick, he should have just paid a prostitute — ideally, me!” New by...
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